Grandparents always hold a special place in their hearts for their grandchildren. For many, seeing their grandchildren grow up reminds them of when they became parents for the first time. Naturally, grandparents want the best for their grandchildren, and they often feel that they are qualified to give guidance and assert their authority when interacting with both parents of their grandchildren.
It is for this reason that rifts can sometimes occur between parents and grandparents. Your son- or daughter-in-law, in particular, may interpret your opinions as insults, and this can create unwanted tensions. If you are worried that you may be seen as unreasonable as a grandparent, it's important to consider the following.
Respect the boundaries of the parents
New parents always feel protective over their children, and they want to feel that they are in control. It is important that you give them space and that you respect their judgments.
Remember that all parents are different
Everyone is different when it comes to how they raise their children. You may think that your grandchildren are being spoiled or that they are treated too strictly by one parent, but unless the child is being abused, this treatment is the decision of the parent.
Always think in terms of the child's best interests
To decide whether you are being reasonable, consider whether you are looking at the situation in terms of the child's best interests. If you are worried about the emotional or physical well-being of the child, it is not unreasonable to be concerned, and you should take action.
If you believe that gaining custody of your grandchildren would be in your grandchildren's best interests, you should consider your legal options.