The process of a divorce can be tough for all those involved, not the least of which is the children. Children of divorcing parents are likely to have different reactions to their parents’ divorce depending on their age. This is why it is important that you understand how to talk to your children so that they can emotionally process the changes that are going to happen.
Many parents make the mistake of simply not talking to their children about the divorce because they want to avoid a painful conversation. But it has been advised that all parents talk to their children about what is going to happen, no matter their age.
How should I break the news to my children?
First of all, you should have some grasp on your future plans before you inform your children of the changes. You should explain the situation in as neutral way as possible, rather than explaining your side of the story. In an ideal situation, both parents will sit down together to talk to their children, in order to present a united front.
What are the positives that I can highlight for my children?
You should be able to reassure your children about the fact that both parents are going to be there for them no matter what. The more details you can say for certain, for example in terms of living arrangements and custody setups, the more you will be able to put the children’s mind at ease.
If you are going through a divorce in Oregon and you are worried about the effect it will have on your children, it is important to plan wisely and maintain good communication with your divorcing spouse.