If you are considering filing for divorce, the state in which you file factors greatly in the process. If you currently reside in Oregon, it's likely that you will need to file here. However, in some cases, you may have limited options to file elsewhere.
The fact that you are considering divorce suggests that you and your spouse do not currently see eye-to-eye. You may disagree with the way that your spouse handles certain situations, and you may find that recent arguments have blown up without warning. If your spouse is passive-aggressive, you will probably be feeling frustrated because you feel that you are never able to have an honest and open conversation.
If you have recently learned that you no longer have custody of your children, you may feel that you cannot cope with this heartbreaking news. To know that you will have to live without constant interaction with your children can be devastating, especially when you do not know when you will be able to see them again. However, you mustn't lose hope.